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W00t w00t, guys! XD

I won a mini RC helicopter from I Want One Of Those dot com.

http://blog.iwantoneofthose.com/2010/06/fathers-day-competition-winners/

Competition was for the most embarrassing 'Dad' anecdotes... hrrrrrnnnn where to even begin >_>;; My entry is the one by "Alex Perea" (;

My dad won't want it XD So... MIIIIINE. Mwahahaha.

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Oh yeah, and I turned down the sales job. The guy said that I interviewed "really well" and he was disappointed that I didn't take it (which was a nice esteem boost), but... I really don't think I am at all cut out for that kind of job. So, it's for the best really. Gotta keep looking...

Current Mood: accomplished
Current Music: Ludacris - Get Back

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From:

way-past-cool.livejournal.com

The situation is that after years of not speaking two people who knew each other on a forum got in contact again and one said to the other 'hey! I'll try to be on more so we can talk!' ...and the other took that as a promise of scheduled meetings and is now seeming to revolve their life and peace of mind around this false and slightly creepy assumption.

If I met up with an old friend from school and we talked and in the end I said 'hey, we'll have to hang out more often!' And then said friend started calling me and everyone one of our mutual aquaintences asking to know where I was and then getting really indignant and scolding me that I wasn't around to hang out like I said and that they expected to be told when I wasn't gonna be around so that they could refrain from doing things like writing long notes to themselves about what they wanted to talk to me about........ I would run away. Far away. XD;

Am I off the mark here? XD I'm sorry Rose... I'm not 'against you' and I honestly cannot recall a time when I ever was, but this is craziness. Take it easy man... let the friendship flooooow.

(sorry for stepping in, anon, your replies rock XD just thought I should explain the 'situation' that Rose seems to think I wouldn't know)

From:

rosebuster.livejournal.com

Incorrect. Okay, part of it is correct. That part that doesn't try to enter my mind and make assumptions of what I feel and what I took as a promise. Once again you're trying to make a terrible person of me and it's very upsetting.

You, as well as the anonymous person above, compare me to some extremities. I'm not like that. This whole discussion here and attacking me was unnecessary.

And since this is Flyboy's journal, everybody's biased and treat me as some kind of monster, even though I'm sure Flyboy himself doesn't think that of me. To clarify the situation, if it's necessary:

I was indeed promised he'd be around more and that he'd fix what went wrong in the past. I didn't take it as any promise of scheduled meetings and my life is much more complicated and has many more elements. I don't really have time to talk every day. I was probably a bit more crazy in those first days after his return, because after all this time I felt I had so much to say.

After he's been gone for over a week, I just wanted to find out where he was, because in the past he used to disappear for months without a word and now that he returned to me and disappeared for quite a bit again, I had reasons to assume he's gone again for good, following the pattern from the past. I'm really not as demanding as you claim. I'm just afraid that after hearing some nice words from him about being a great friend, we're back to where we were. The fear of loss once again made me act desperately trying to find out what's going on, before it's too late and he's gone for 6 months or something once more. The fear of loss is what's driving me here and not some abusive personality. And getting any single-sentence reply from Flyboy (in any form, IM, email, whatever) would help me calm down. Please don't make assumptions about me, they're hurtful.

And the friendship won't "flooooow" if he leaves for months and returns after a long time to say he cares about me. I know it wasn't months yet, I was just trying to prevent that. In return for trying to save a friendship, I get piled here on this journal for being abusive when my intentions were pure. Sorry for caring...

From: (Anonymous)

No one is saying you're a "monster" or a bad person. That is a misconstruction of what was said. We're criticizing your behavior, not your qualities as a person.

It's obvious you're upset, and you have a right to be from your own perspective - you feel ignored. That is fine. But you're missing the part where Jai himself said that your friendship deteriorated IN THE FIRST PLACE because of how you're acting now. If Jai said you were an important friend and then proceeded to avoid contacting you, that's Jai's problem, and Jai's issue to work out. But you, too, have an issue. The issues are mutual. You have to pay attention to what's being said here, to and about you, accept some responsibility.

From:

rosebuster.livejournal.com

I replied to his post below, I think it explains some things further. I don't think our friendship deteriorated by the way. I believe we're still good friends. :)

From:

way-past-cool.livejournal.com

As the anon below said, no one is trying to make you a terrible person or say you're a monster. Now slightly spoiled and entitled.. maybe. But not a monster. XD

Bottomline, yes, it's been a long while since you talked. Take it casually, don't put pressure on it, even if you're really desperate to talk... chill. That's how friends get comfortable.

Something tells me you're not the kind of person who any of this will sink in for n.n;;

From:

way-past-cool.livejournal.com

Anon above, rather :D

From:

rosebuster.livejournal.com

I wanna make some friendly arrangements with you if you don't mind. I suppose our history wasn't the greatest. I remember being upset because of you in the past on TTR forums for example and also when you accused me of cheating in sonic rating. I don't remember details now, I just remembered that I was often feeling bad because of your words. I think I should try to put that all behind and try again.

Listen, I make mistakes, I'm just a man. I'm not afraid to admit I'm not always an angel. I like that my close friends understand that and give me chance to fix my mistakes. So please forgive me and don't be mad. If you want to help me become a better person, I appreciate advice, but it's better delivered in a friendly way that doesn't make me feel bad. It's much nicer to have friends and I don't want to hide from you anymore. I admit, I was afraid of you. Let's chance that please? :3

From:

way-past-cool.livejournal.com

First of all, I'm sorry, but I really don't remember these times that you've talked about where I did stuff that made you feel bad. ^^;

Second of all, the advice I deliver isn't unfriendly. I don't know how much more friendly I would need to be without just saying 'you're a lovely guy and nothing's wrong with you' which I think is what you really want, not advice. XD I just tell it like it is, usually with a positive emoticon. It's not like I'm yelling at you.

There's no need to be afraid of me. That's crazy! XD

From:

rosebuster.livejournal.com

No need to remember those times, it's past now. And the reason I was afraid and had that unfriendly feeling is also pretty much a result of this past that I will just try to forget now. And I hope it will be alright.