Ain't it funny
May. 2nd, 2006 03:40 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
flyboy_fox"Jei, I'm not gonna run naked across the Mexican border."
I said that last night. And it was actually a serious comment XD Yeah... so... we were talking about immigration again :\ And how I'm determined to do it. Somehow. It just SUCKS beyond anything that Jei and I are on opposite side of 'the big pond'. 5,000 miles between us... that's just not right. It's been too long now, y'know? No one ever said it would be easy... but it's DAMN hard, and getting harder each day. She and I have been together for almost eight years now. Since I was 14 and she was 13. Yet we get to see each other, what, once... maybe twice... per year, for a couple weeks? It's not GOOD enough. I love her. I want to be with her. Eight years is no trifling affair! I'm sick of being so far away from her, drawing what little comfort I can from a couple hours online with her each night, and phone-calls a few times per week (which REALLY adds up, cost-wise :\).
Truth is, if I was in Mexico, I would do my damn best to sneak across the border. Yes, I would seriously do it. Despite my respect for immigration law and its necessity. I'm desperate enough. I'd do it. Buuuut... I'm not in Mexico. Mexican immigrants often get away with it because there's no record of them entering the USA. There's not so many ways to track them. But for me to enter the USA, I HAVE to pass through customs. There's no other way I can get myself across the ocean... so... there'll always be a record of me entering, and even if I were to hide, the chances of me getting caught and deported are FAR higher. And you know, it's a risk I'd take... if it wasn't for the fact that the repercussions of being caught and deported could mean being banned from the United States for five years or more :\ DAMMIT.
What sucks more is that there are ways just beyond my grasp, but none of them quite work out:
There's the "Greencard Lottery", but only countries with less than 50,000 immigrant applications to the States can apply. And of course the UK (minus Northern Ireland) is on the denied list. Hard to believe that such a small country could have over 50,000 USA citizenship applications come from it in just 5 years (10,000+ per year)... but... I guess so. I could apply with my dad's country of birth, but his is even worse :\ Colombia. Hah! Immigration central :P Why did my dad have to go and be South American? :P ... anyway, yeah, no Greencard Lottery for me.
Then there's going on a fiancé visa. Great. If America recognised my engagement x.x So yeah, unless something amazing happens, I won't be able to get into the USA via marriage to Jei anytime soon. Gyaaaah. Well, Jei could apply for UK citizenship via a fiancé visa, since there's new laws here... and that's a definite option for the future... but right now she's just at the end of the first year of a three year college course, so she's kinda stuck where she is. I don't think she can transfer, either, since it's not a degree course... feh :\ Oh well. I respect that.
And then here's the REAL kicker. I have a half-sister who's an American citizen! If I could get her to sponsor me, I could apply for American citizenship via family... buuuut... here's the problem. I don't _know_ her. I've only ever spoken to her once, and that was on the phone and about 9 years ago x.x If my deadbeat dad would get in touch with her, maybe she'd be willing to help... but... my dad is an idiot and can't be trusted to do anything ._. I tried this with him before... kept saying he'd talk to her... NEVER did... no matter how much I poked and prodded him. My dad is just... rrrrgghh... he makes me SO mad! Get this... just the other day, when he called, he told me and my brother he was going to send us some money. The next day, he calls my mom and asks her to lend him £1,000! The guy is unbelievable x.x
So here I am, stuck here, still looking for a way and just meeting dead ends. Brick wall after brick wall. And it's driving me crazy. I love Jei and I want to be with her! GF tnbBVY tgGYFÍÍhkjh86&(^ ygb!!!! >O
I said that last night. And it was actually a serious comment XD Yeah... so... we were talking about immigration again :\ And how I'm determined to do it. Somehow. It just SUCKS beyond anything that Jei and I are on opposite side of 'the big pond'. 5,000 miles between us... that's just not right. It's been too long now, y'know? No one ever said it would be easy... but it's DAMN hard, and getting harder each day. She and I have been together for almost eight years now. Since I was 14 and she was 13. Yet we get to see each other, what, once... maybe twice... per year, for a couple weeks? It's not GOOD enough. I love her. I want to be with her. Eight years is no trifling affair! I'm sick of being so far away from her, drawing what little comfort I can from a couple hours online with her each night, and phone-calls a few times per week (which REALLY adds up, cost-wise :\).
Truth is, if I was in Mexico, I would do my damn best to sneak across the border. Yes, I would seriously do it. Despite my respect for immigration law and its necessity. I'm desperate enough. I'd do it. Buuuut... I'm not in Mexico. Mexican immigrants often get away with it because there's no record of them entering the USA. There's not so many ways to track them. But for me to enter the USA, I HAVE to pass through customs. There's no other way I can get myself across the ocean... so... there'll always be a record of me entering, and even if I were to hide, the chances of me getting caught and deported are FAR higher. And you know, it's a risk I'd take... if it wasn't for the fact that the repercussions of being caught and deported could mean being banned from the United States for five years or more :\ DAMMIT.
What sucks more is that there are ways just beyond my grasp, but none of them quite work out:
There's the "Greencard Lottery", but only countries with less than 50,000 immigrant applications to the States can apply. And of course the UK (minus Northern Ireland) is on the denied list. Hard to believe that such a small country could have over 50,000 USA citizenship applications come from it in just 5 years (10,000+ per year)... but... I guess so. I could apply with my dad's country of birth, but his is even worse :\ Colombia. Hah! Immigration central :P Why did my dad have to go and be South American? :P ... anyway, yeah, no Greencard Lottery for me.
Then there's going on a fiancé visa. Great. If America recognised my engagement x.x So yeah, unless something amazing happens, I won't be able to get into the USA via marriage to Jei anytime soon. Gyaaaah. Well, Jei could apply for UK citizenship via a fiancé visa, since there's new laws here... and that's a definite option for the future... but right now she's just at the end of the first year of a three year college course, so she's kinda stuck where she is. I don't think she can transfer, either, since it's not a degree course... feh :\ Oh well. I respect that.
And then here's the REAL kicker. I have a half-sister who's an American citizen! If I could get her to sponsor me, I could apply for American citizenship via family... buuuut... here's the problem. I don't _know_ her. I've only ever spoken to her once, and that was on the phone and about 9 years ago x.x If my deadbeat dad would get in touch with her, maybe she'd be willing to help... but... my dad is an idiot and can't be trusted to do anything ._. I tried this with him before... kept saying he'd talk to her... NEVER did... no matter how much I poked and prodded him. My dad is just... rrrrgghh... he makes me SO mad! Get this... just the other day, when he called, he told me and my brother he was going to send us some money. The next day, he calls my mom and asks her to lend him £1,000! The guy is unbelievable x.x
So here I am, stuck here, still looking for a way and just meeting dead ends. Brick wall after brick wall. And it's driving me crazy. I love Jei and I want to be with her! GF tnbBVY tgGYFÍÍhkjh86&(^ ygb!!!! >O
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Date: 2006-05-02 03:56 pm (UTC)Anyway, in about 2001ish. I came up here. I STILL don't have my visa yet. We got married in 2003, I had Miles in 2005. I STILL don't have a visa. It's pathetic isn't it? We filled out all the forms before Miles was born, but they wouldn't process it because I have to get xrays...which I couldn't have done because I was pregnant. Now that Miles is 7 months old, I can go get xrays, but I don't have money to pay for it. We're having bank issues at the moment...stupid bank has our savings and won't give it to us it's a long story. Piss me off!!ajfld Uh yea...so I'm going to get my xrays soon I hope. This month. Then send that in and hopefully it won't take long after that. It's $500 just to process the damn thing. Which we don't have. But Kev's parents will probably pay for that.
Anyway, my point is that I've been here since 2001 and have yet to be kicked out of Canada. Maybe the USA and Canada borders are more lax cuz we're such good buddies. I'm allowed to stay for 6 months at a time. But I usually only go home once every 12 months. Sometimes twice a year. But I seriously doubt anyone is going to raise hell when I'm married to a Canadian and gave birth to a Canadian! Contributing to Canada's need for child bearing peeps to immigrate. I'll just be glad when this is all over and I don't have to worry about my stupid visa anymore. It's been a real drag.
I guess what I'm trying to say is...there is hope. It's tough now, but it will get better...and you will find a way. :)
Have you tried talking to an immigration lawyer?
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Date: 2006-05-02 06:32 pm (UTC)I'd love to speak with an immigration lawyer... but unfortunately, lawyer = money, and me = broke :( I'm pretty sure the consultation fees are higher than a job-seeking 21-year-old can afford ^^; But I guess I should look into it... thanks for the support and advice!
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Date: 2006-05-02 06:57 pm (UTC)