Ain't it funny
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flyboy_fox"Jei, I'm not gonna run naked across the Mexican border."
I said that last night. And it was actually a serious comment XD Yeah... so... we were talking about immigration again :\ And how I'm determined to do it. Somehow. It just SUCKS beyond anything that Jei and I are on opposite side of 'the big pond'. 5,000 miles between us... that's just not right. It's been too long now, y'know? No one ever said it would be easy... but it's DAMN hard, and getting harder each day. She and I have been together for almost eight years now. Since I was 14 and she was 13. Yet we get to see each other, what, once... maybe twice... per year, for a couple weeks? It's not GOOD enough. I love her. I want to be with her. Eight years is no trifling affair! I'm sick of being so far away from her, drawing what little comfort I can from a couple hours online with her each night, and phone-calls a few times per week (which REALLY adds up, cost-wise :\).
Truth is, if I was in Mexico, I would do my damn best to sneak across the border. Yes, I would seriously do it. Despite my respect for immigration law and its necessity. I'm desperate enough. I'd do it. Buuuut... I'm not in Mexico. Mexican immigrants often get away with it because there's no record of them entering the USA. There's not so many ways to track them. But for me to enter the USA, I HAVE to pass through customs. There's no other way I can get myself across the ocean... so... there'll always be a record of me entering, and even if I were to hide, the chances of me getting caught and deported are FAR higher. And you know, it's a risk I'd take... if it wasn't for the fact that the repercussions of being caught and deported could mean being banned from the United States for five years or more :\ DAMMIT.
What sucks more is that there are ways just beyond my grasp, but none of them quite work out:
There's the "Greencard Lottery", but only countries with less than 50,000 immigrant applications to the States can apply. And of course the UK (minus Northern Ireland) is on the denied list. Hard to believe that such a small country could have over 50,000 USA citizenship applications come from it in just 5 years (10,000+ per year)... but... I guess so. I could apply with my dad's country of birth, but his is even worse :\ Colombia. Hah! Immigration central :P Why did my dad have to go and be South American? :P ... anyway, yeah, no Greencard Lottery for me.
Then there's going on a fiancé visa. Great. If America recognised my engagement x.x So yeah, unless something amazing happens, I won't be able to get into the USA via marriage to Jei anytime soon. Gyaaaah. Well, Jei could apply for UK citizenship via a fiancé visa, since there's new laws here... and that's a definite option for the future... but right now she's just at the end of the first year of a three year college course, so she's kinda stuck where she is. I don't think she can transfer, either, since it's not a degree course... feh :\ Oh well. I respect that.
And then here's the REAL kicker. I have a half-sister who's an American citizen! If I could get her to sponsor me, I could apply for American citizenship via family... buuuut... here's the problem. I don't _know_ her. I've only ever spoken to her once, and that was on the phone and about 9 years ago x.x If my deadbeat dad would get in touch with her, maybe she'd be willing to help... but... my dad is an idiot and can't be trusted to do anything ._. I tried this with him before... kept saying he'd talk to her... NEVER did... no matter how much I poked and prodded him. My dad is just... rrrrgghh... he makes me SO mad! Get this... just the other day, when he called, he told me and my brother he was going to send us some money. The next day, he calls my mom and asks her to lend him £1,000! The guy is unbelievable x.x
So here I am, stuck here, still looking for a way and just meeting dead ends. Brick wall after brick wall. And it's driving me crazy. I love Jei and I want to be with her! GF tnbBVY tgGYFÍÍhkjh86&(^ ygb!!!! >O
I said that last night. And it was actually a serious comment XD Yeah... so... we were talking about immigration again :\ And how I'm determined to do it. Somehow. It just SUCKS beyond anything that Jei and I are on opposite side of 'the big pond'. 5,000 miles between us... that's just not right. It's been too long now, y'know? No one ever said it would be easy... but it's DAMN hard, and getting harder each day. She and I have been together for almost eight years now. Since I was 14 and she was 13. Yet we get to see each other, what, once... maybe twice... per year, for a couple weeks? It's not GOOD enough. I love her. I want to be with her. Eight years is no trifling affair! I'm sick of being so far away from her, drawing what little comfort I can from a couple hours online with her each night, and phone-calls a few times per week (which REALLY adds up, cost-wise :\).
Truth is, if I was in Mexico, I would do my damn best to sneak across the border. Yes, I would seriously do it. Despite my respect for immigration law and its necessity. I'm desperate enough. I'd do it. Buuuut... I'm not in Mexico. Mexican immigrants often get away with it because there's no record of them entering the USA. There's not so many ways to track them. But for me to enter the USA, I HAVE to pass through customs. There's no other way I can get myself across the ocean... so... there'll always be a record of me entering, and even if I were to hide, the chances of me getting caught and deported are FAR higher. And you know, it's a risk I'd take... if it wasn't for the fact that the repercussions of being caught and deported could mean being banned from the United States for five years or more :\ DAMMIT.
What sucks more is that there are ways just beyond my grasp, but none of them quite work out:
There's the "Greencard Lottery", but only countries with less than 50,000 immigrant applications to the States can apply. And of course the UK (minus Northern Ireland) is on the denied list. Hard to believe that such a small country could have over 50,000 USA citizenship applications come from it in just 5 years (10,000+ per year)... but... I guess so. I could apply with my dad's country of birth, but his is even worse :\ Colombia. Hah! Immigration central :P Why did my dad have to go and be South American? :P ... anyway, yeah, no Greencard Lottery for me.
Then there's going on a fiancé visa. Great. If America recognised my engagement x.x So yeah, unless something amazing happens, I won't be able to get into the USA via marriage to Jei anytime soon. Gyaaaah. Well, Jei could apply for UK citizenship via a fiancé visa, since there's new laws here... and that's a definite option for the future... but right now she's just at the end of the first year of a three year college course, so she's kinda stuck where she is. I don't think she can transfer, either, since it's not a degree course... feh :\ Oh well. I respect that.
And then here's the REAL kicker. I have a half-sister who's an American citizen! If I could get her to sponsor me, I could apply for American citizenship via family... buuuut... here's the problem. I don't _know_ her. I've only ever spoken to her once, and that was on the phone and about 9 years ago x.x If my deadbeat dad would get in touch with her, maybe she'd be willing to help... but... my dad is an idiot and can't be trusted to do anything ._. I tried this with him before... kept saying he'd talk to her... NEVER did... no matter how much I poked and prodded him. My dad is just... rrrrgghh... he makes me SO mad! Get this... just the other day, when he called, he told me and my brother he was going to send us some money. The next day, he calls my mom and asks her to lend him £1,000! The guy is unbelievable x.x
So here I am, stuck here, still looking for a way and just meeting dead ends. Brick wall after brick wall. And it's driving me crazy. I love Jei and I want to be with her! GF tnbBVY tgGYFÍÍhkjh86&(^ ygb!!!! >O
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Date: 2006-05-02 03:56 pm (UTC)Anyway, in about 2001ish. I came up here. I STILL don't have my visa yet. We got married in 2003, I had Miles in 2005. I STILL don't have a visa. It's pathetic isn't it? We filled out all the forms before Miles was born, but they wouldn't process it because I have to get xrays...which I couldn't have done because I was pregnant. Now that Miles is 7 months old, I can go get xrays, but I don't have money to pay for it. We're having bank issues at the moment...stupid bank has our savings and won't give it to us it's a long story. Piss me off!!ajfld Uh yea...so I'm going to get my xrays soon I hope. This month. Then send that in and hopefully it won't take long after that. It's $500 just to process the damn thing. Which we don't have. But Kev's parents will probably pay for that.
Anyway, my point is that I've been here since 2001 and have yet to be kicked out of Canada. Maybe the USA and Canada borders are more lax cuz we're such good buddies. I'm allowed to stay for 6 months at a time. But I usually only go home once every 12 months. Sometimes twice a year. But I seriously doubt anyone is going to raise hell when I'm married to a Canadian and gave birth to a Canadian! Contributing to Canada's need for child bearing peeps to immigrate. I'll just be glad when this is all over and I don't have to worry about my stupid visa anymore. It's been a real drag.
I guess what I'm trying to say is...there is hope. It's tough now, but it will get better...and you will find a way. :)
Have you tried talking to an immigration lawyer?
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Date: 2006-05-02 04:34 pm (UTC)It's completely free, you download and it works just like MSN messenger or suchlike. You find the other person through their email or their screen name, and you can chat in text like on MSN or place a call. As long as you have a microphone, and you can get an office headset for next to nothing in most places. There is even SkypeOut, where you can buy credit to call from your computer to a landline, although the quality is usually pretty bad- I use it for emergencies to get my mom on regular Skype, or for when I travel (many hostels have Skype-phones attached to their computers now, which is super handy when you're travelling, as €10 goes a VERY long way and saves you craploads of money in calling card. I bought €10 last summer and there is still €8.50 left, after about four hours of talk time added up on it).
But Skyping with someone who also has Skype is just as good quality as the phone, especially if you are both on broadband. I use it to talk to my parents and my two best friends in Canada, it saves me roughly £10 000. :)
Sadly I can't give you advice for anything else, heh. If you could wheedle your half-sister's address out of your dad you could maybe write her a polite letter on your own. What about a working-holiday Visa to the states? Might get you a couple months, and maybe some connections to jobs that would sponsor you. Maybe by then you could be considered common-law... but I really don't know. Hope it works out dude.
It took me five tries to get this post to look right. Apologies if you have comment alert turned on!
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Date: 2006-05-02 05:32 pm (UTC)You and Jei should be together, darnit. ;-;
However, 'the big pond,' made me smile. xD
Oh, and the Nintendo-thing is gonna be called the...
Wii.
The whole Pokemon fandom is snickering immaturely.
There's a petition against the Wii.
It got up to around 1000 signatures in, what, a day, a week?
It took HOW long to get Save Our Voice Actors to have nearly that much signatures.
... One's changing the voice actors with cheap sound-alikes after nine years and the other is for changing the name of the Wii.
...
-falls over-
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Date: 2006-05-02 06:24 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-05-02 06:32 pm (UTC)I'd love to speak with an immigration lawyer... but unfortunately, lawyer = money, and me = broke :( I'm pretty sure the consultation fees are higher than a job-seeking 21-year-old can afford ^^; But I guess I should look into it... thanks for the support and advice!
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Date: 2006-05-02 06:39 pm (UTC)I've tried getting my sister's contact details from my dad, but most of the time he doesn't even seem to know where she lives x.x My dad is a moron, plus half the time I don't understand him and he doesn't understand me, 'cause his first language is Spanish and I don't speak Spanish. I don't get much chance to bug him about it, because he lives in Colombia and I only get to speak to him occasionally. I'll keep trying, but it's like trying to draw blood out of a stone x.x
And yeah, I have comment emails turned on :) It was kind of amusing. But heck, I'm always doing the same thing with resubmitting comments ^^;
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Date: 2006-05-02 06:41 pm (UTC)"Wanna see my Wii?"
"I'm gonna go play with my Wii!"
"Wii Wii Wii!!"
X_x Stupid name! I'll sign the petition XD If I can find it.
But the VA petition needs more attention! I'll die if they keep those horrid VAs ;_;
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Date: 2006-05-02 08:18 pm (UTC)"Wanna see my Wii?"
"I'm gonna go play with my Wii!"
"Wii Wii Wii!!"
This is going to be so wrong in so many ways. xD
Kid: Mom, can I play with my Wii?
Mom: Your what?
Kid: My Wii. My games.
Mom: Oh that, go ahead.
Kid: What did you think I meant, Mom?
Mom: ..... Nothing, dear. Go play with your Wii.
xD xD. The name is funny, but I agreem it needs to be changed. xD
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Date: 2006-05-02 08:20 pm (UTC)And I'm not saying anything on the strikes yesterday, don't know what to think as of yet.
*hugs* Don't give up, I know that there's a way for you to come here to the US, you just have to find it. :)
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Date: 2006-05-08 06:25 pm (UTC)Me and my Ex were in a long distance relationship for 3 years, we broke up in February 10 days before our 3 year anniversary. I just wanted to say, holy hell congratulations on keeping it going for 8 years. If only we knew about people with such grit as yourself maybe she wouldn't have crumbled and given up.Well done :)
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