But I really feel you're not exploring all the angles. Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa, New Hampshire, Vermont, and Washington, D.C., all have civil unions that, while not legally equal to a marriage, would at least acknowledge your status. You'd have to get remarried, but it's actually relatively painless to deal with. California and New York will both recognize unions performed elsewhere. If Jei gets work in any of those states, she can bring you in as her husband.
That is not and will never be good enough. As someone who actually does LGBTQ activism, I'm mortified to even be saying this. But...all I can ask is, give it time. In the meanwhile, get into the country. It goes without question that you can acquire a market skill-you're extremely smart and capable and no one has any doubt that if you set your mind to it you could do damn well whatever you please.
Finally, is there a legal process to change the "F" on your birth certificate to an "M"? In the US they'll only do it for people who've had sex-reassignment surgery (which is, of course, bullshit), but if the requirements are different for you you can exploit the loophole by changing your birth certificate and emigrating to the US.
The second failsafe suggested by that anonymous poster is a really really good idea. It doesn't take long to get certified (2-4 years depending on if you go for Certified Nurse or Register Nurse, but I've known people who get it in less time) and you'll be able to work anywhere.
And you know what else? If Florida won't recognize your marriage-fuck 'em. Move over together, live together, and help us fight the legal bullshit on this side of the pond.
*deep sigh* okay. I think I've ranted your ear off now. It's frustrating to see someone as capable, smart, and downright awesome as you getting discouraged. It's a pain in the ass roadblock, and it is gonna be a bitch to deal with it. But you can.
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Date: 2011-01-27 05:38 am (UTC)But I really feel you're not exploring all the angles. Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa, New Hampshire, Vermont, and Washington, D.C., all have civil unions that, while not legally equal to a marriage, would at least acknowledge your status. You'd have to get remarried, but it's actually relatively painless to deal with. California and New York will both recognize unions performed elsewhere. If Jei gets work in any of those states, she can bring you in as her husband.
That is not and will never be good enough. As someone who actually does LGBTQ activism, I'm mortified to even be saying this. But...all I can ask is, give it time. In the meanwhile, get into the country. It goes without question that you can acquire a market skill-you're extremely smart and capable and no one has any doubt that if you set your mind to it you could do damn well whatever you please.
Finally, is there a legal process to change the "F" on your birth certificate to an "M"? In the US they'll only do it for people who've had sex-reassignment surgery (which is, of course, bullshit), but if the requirements are different for you you can exploit the loophole by changing your birth certificate and emigrating to the US.
The second failsafe suggested by that anonymous poster is a really really good idea. It doesn't take long to get certified (2-4 years depending on if you go for Certified Nurse or Register Nurse, but I've known people who get it in less time) and you'll be able to work anywhere.
And you know what else? If Florida won't recognize your marriage-fuck 'em. Move over together, live together, and help us fight the legal bullshit on this side of the pond.
*deep sigh* okay. I think I've ranted your ear off now. It's frustrating to see someone as capable, smart, and downright awesome as you getting discouraged. It's a pain in the ass roadblock, and it is gonna be a bitch to deal with it. But you can.