Meh...

[flyboy_fox]

Okay, I was gonna do this post for a while, but I was afraid. But now I really need to know, so I'm going to ask my friends list to be totally honest with me.

Okay, here's the deal. My mom says that I'm obese. She's obsessed with this 'fact' and she's constantly telling me that I need to lose weight. She treats me with scorn if I ask for a second helping of anything, and if she catches me eating anything that isn't the tiny portion she's assigned me, she says "I thought you were trying to lose weight". The fact is, SHE wants me to lose weight. I was actually quite happy with where I was, but she insists that I must be obese and that I'm definitely very overweight right now.

My girlfriend says my mom has weight issues and that I'm fine. Of course, I wanna believe her, but she IS my girlfriend... and my mom's constant snarkiness and remarks about how overweight I am are really getting me down.

Now, I KNOW that I have a little extra weight around my tummy and thighs. I'm not slim, I know that. But I don't think that I'm obese or 'very overweight' either. Maybe I'm just being defensive though. If I'm clearly overweight then I need to know. I don't have any problem with anyone who is overweight, including myself, but I want to know if my mom is making a bigger deal out of this than necessary.

So here's a quick snap of me that I took 5 minutes ago:



Honest answers, please? ._. Am I 'clearly obese'? If not, do I look 'very overweight'? Or am I just in need of a little toning and to shift a few pounds? Thanks LJ. *Goes to work out*

Comments

[radioactivepiss.livejournal.com]

...Obese?!

I know obese people. That is not obese. A little overweight, sure, as you say, but in no way is that something to really worry about.

Your Mom is either projecting her own issues or simply has no sense of scale, to be frank.

Besides, losing weight is often way more stressful on the body and mind than a little extra fat is; I've never understood the obsession some people have with it. It makes people a lot more miserable (and unhealthy by proxy) than being slightly off the absolute ideal health-wise, in my experience.

You're the one that knows your body, not your mother, and not us either. Do you wanna tone up or lose weight? If so, go for it! If not, pfft, what does she know?

[sletia.livejournal.com]

Sweetheart, do you want me to take a picture of my stomach? I am obese. You are not. You look healthy. I'm over 200lbs. Tell your mom to stfu, seriously. Sounds like she has her own psychological issues.

[overlord-mordax.livejournal.com]

... okay, seriously, that makes me want to chew your mom a new airhole. *growl* You are not "obese" at all! You're not fat, and *I* wouldn't even go so far as to call you pudgy! If she thinks your having nice hips makes you fat, then she is comparing you to runway models.

[dia-aren-marie.livejournal.com]

are you serious

that is NOT obese. Obese is like 'holy fucking shit where you gonna put all that?'

If ever, I think you may be a bit overweight (I think you have the body type I had just two years ago XD), but not at all something I would call obese-ville.

You should print out a picture of a truly obese person and show her dat and be all "YO BITCH DIS BE WAT OBESE IS." I forgot what the percentage of "fat" would have to be to be 'obese', but it's definitely TONS more than that. :/

[bandazgeek.livejournal.com]

If that is "clearly obese" or "very overweight", the obese people need a new classification. Has your parent ever seen an obese person?!

Maybe you should go online, calculate your BMI and show it to your folk - I'll eat my hat if it's anything over 20.

[moth-wingthane.livejournal.com]

No disrespect intended to your mum, but she's seeing something that just isn't there. I wouldn't even say you were overweight, let alone obese. She must have some other issue going on there.

[akimiahoshino.livejournal.com]

You are not obese. You are not very overweight. You've got some extra padding on your hips and thighs, as you said, and that's fine. I'm the same way. XD Don't let your mother pressure you into changing your body, especially if you are happy with it. After all, it's YOUR body. Their own body is one of the few things a person ever has that is unconditionally THEIRS. For crying out loud, have it the way you like it. =)

[rainsingingwolf.livejournal.com]

...

You look fine! A little weight in the tummy and the thighs is a good thing. It gives you more curve definition.

And my mate says you look just fine too.

[psychicninja.livejournal.com]

Hon, I live with two parents who are honestly battle obesity. Mom moreso than Dad, now, he was admittedly more lingering on overweight and is doing a great deal better, but-- that aside.

I know that a lot of people have the mentality there? Of "anything extra is fat which is thereby *GASP* THE DEVIL" or summat, but... it's very, very far from the truth. Honestly? You look to be a lovely healthy weight to me. Well built, you have a nice figure that shows up well here... far as I can tell? Concerning any straight-up weight loss, you've nothing to worry about. |D

And honestly? Even if you wanted to go for toning - And I emphasize the YOU want, no one else can tell you what you want to be like -, you'd likely gain a speck of weight. Body fat would get shifted around a bit in all likeliness and you'd end up gaining muscle mass which, incidentally, weighs more.. but that should be no one elses' choice, dear. &hearts

Far as I can tell, you're a lovely, shapely, well put together human being~ Jei's lucky. >.> *SHOT* |D &hearts

[tallycola.livejournal.com]

Definitely not obese, definitely not "very overweight". Overweight is kind of a weird term anyway, as it kind of implies an ideal weight, but it's different for everybody - but you look totally healthy to me.

[romik-g.livejournal.com]

Why not in swimsuit or panties? ;)
You are OK, sure. You may get a paper from a doctor stating that your weight is OK to show to your mom )))

[(Anonymous)]

You're not skinny, but you certainly aren't obese. Just search Google image for the word "obese" if you want to see what actual obesity looks like. You look to be a perfectly healthy weight to me.

[rblake77.livejournal.com]

If that is obese, then I'm Brad Pitt. And I'm not Brad Pitt.

Seriously, I've seen obese. Everything from slightly obese to morbidly obese to Shamu. You aren't any of them. You might be a little overweight (with which there is absolutely nothing wrong), but not obese.

[chocomookielove.livejournal.com]

wat.

I think your mom's on dope.

[leonskennedy827.livejournal.com]

I myself am overweight, and that is definatley not overweight.

[p1nk5pider.livejournal.com]

Just echoing what everybody's already said- definitely NOT obese. i wouldn't even say you're overweight either (going from the picture). You look just fine. Sure, watching what/how much you eat and getting regular exercise is just a good thing to do regardless whether or not you're trying to lose weight, but strict dieting like what your mom seems to be forcing on you is not healthy for neither mind nor body. You're fine just how you are, seriously!

[capncloudchaser.livejournal.com]

I'm obese, and I wish I looked like you :P

[artamissnowpaw.livejournal.com]

If that's obese, then I'm Paris Hilton. My dear, you are just fine. Clearly not obese. You have nothing to worry over there. Your Mom really needs to take another look, me thinks.

[(Anonymous)]

That isn't even overweight.

That's almost ideal! The tummy and thigh fat are natural. I work out and have more testerone than the average female due to a (natural) hormone imbalance, so I grow muscles a lot more easily and I still get cellulite around the thighs. It's perfectly normal and more than half of women have it, even someone as genetically... er, special as myself.

It's something that pretty much just comes naturally with being a woman, I guess. And due to our cushier-than-our-ancestors lifestyle.

Don't sweat it, Jai.

You might want to exercise more, it really is quite relaxing~ and then you can eat MORE to sustain any muscles and to replace energy. It's awesome and your mom can't complain about that. And not all exercise is all that troublesome, you could try low-impact stuff like yoga or pilates or Tai Chi (though, the last is a bit more difficult) and get an excuse to eat more while doing relaxing stuff!

But yes, it's obviously your mother who has a problem. Maybe she has weight issues herself and is just taking it out on you. Society's constantly bombarding women with awfully unobtainable for many beauty ideals, so you should try to be understanding, even though I know it's hard. She's just hurting and not sure what to do with it all. Or perhaps annoyed at how she feels the need to fit society's image while you seem to take it much less seriously and just eat when you feel like eating. Kind of a "how dare you be happy while I'm suffering" thing.

Seconding or maybe thirding showing her pictures of TRUELY obese people though, if she refuses to see the truth that you're even CLOSER to the beauty ideal than most people, so, really, what on Earth, woman?! OBSE? Are you mad?

[(Anonymous)]

rofl your mom needs to get out more for serious. troll says crazy bred crazy, goddamn

you're heading for tubby, but she's a bitch

[violettsukino.livejournal.com]

This may sound hyperbolic, but I don't see how you're remotely fat in the slightest.

[(Anonymous)]

I think you've missed the point. You're almost 25 years old. You're about to get married. Why is your mother still measuring your portion sizes? That's what you've got to sort out sharpish. Get her to back it up now before she's telling you what wallpaper you can and can't have at 35.

[peonyopal.livejournal.com]

Dude, you're pretty damned thin. Your mom is apparently a fuck tard and maybe she just wants you to look like she wants to. I know from experience that thats what my mom did until she finally became a fucking crack head. But yeah. If -YOU- Actually wanted to lose weight Im sure you would, though Im not really sure -what- you'd lose considering how thin you already are XD
I dont know, if you wanted anything all you'd really have to do is toning, but Im not sure if youre the muscley type, ya know?

[the-terrible.livejournal.com]

I... that... WHAT? THAT is considered obese? What the hell?! You're not obese at all; you not anywhere NEAR obese!

I agree with your girlfriend; this is your mom's issue, not yours! You're fine!

[antthetitch.livejournal.com]

That is nowhere near obese, from that photo you look fine to me, maybe your mum is just trying to prevent you from becoming obese or something. I dunno. Either way it would be entirely up to you what you eat and how much you want to weigh and not your mums so if shes complaining about it then I guess thats her problem and you should leave her to stew in her own juice

AHHH

[zuki-chan.livejournal.com]

afajhfshasf

NO

YOU ARE NOT OBESE.

Goodness, I don't even consider myself to be pudgy, and you look thinner than I do! I think your mom might just have some unresolved issues or ideals of beauty and she's just applying them to you. *Shakes head* What you do have, body-wise, is a nice pear shape (and you're actually looking really toned for your body shape)!

[sphix.livejournal.com]

Are you kidding? My best friend weighs like 400 pounds XD You're perfectly fine~ Don't worry about a few extra pounds unless they're getting in the way.