flyboy_fox

I'm not unfriendly. I know that I at least try not to be. I may not be the most sociable fox in the world, but I don't like having enemies and I like to think that I'm friendly with most of the people I know. But when I DO have a dispute with someone, I try not to let it spill over to other people.

I hadn't mentioned this dispute in my journal at ALL until now, because I valued the other guy's privacy.

Then I find out that he's mentioned the dispute at least TWICE in his (friends-locked) journal... needless to say, I feel kinda stung. But that alone I can handle. What's getting to me now is that since then, no fewer than SIX people have IMed me about it, trying to get me to patch things up with this friend, or asking for my side of the story, etc etc.

Honestly?

The more I get accosted about it, the less likely I am to EVER speak to this person again. I like you guys, but this fight is not any of your business. What's more, some of you who haven't spoken to me in MONTHS are suddenly IMing me again just to talk about this fight. It's like "Oh! Hi! I haven't seen you in forever!" followed by the inevitable "Oh...". It's getting to a point where I just feel like ghosting completely. I don't want to do that, because I like talking with my friends. But right now it kinda feels like I'm being ganged up on, because I'm keeping to myself, but the other guy is involving mutual friends, and I have no idea what's being said.

So I'm going to ask politely (and reiterate that NONE of this affects my friendship with any of you) - if you're planning to contact me in any form to talk to me about this person and/or the dispute we had... please don't. The more people that IM me about it, the more resentful I'm becoming towards this person and the less I like him. I have a lot going on now with my brother moving back in and me starting a new job and my mom's health. I don't need this extra hassle.

Thanks guys.