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[flyboy_fox]

I am... well... almost speechless.

My dad sent an email to my mom today (which he also carbon-copied to me, for some reason).

Here's a few snippets (yeah, English isn't his first language, so that excuses the grammar. Doesn't excuse him being a bastard though x.o):


"I know I can hurt you badly if I wanted."

Is that a threat? He'd better not be threatening my mom.

"But I am not after your money or the things you value more in life like a good pension when you retire and good house and food that you enjoy so much."

Ah yes. My dad is convinced that my mom only cares about money, merely because she dares to ask him why he's never paid a penny in support of this family. Despite the fact that she works two jobs. Despite the fact that he REFUSES to help support the family in ANY manner.

I can honestly say that my mom is the least money-obsessed person I know. My dad is just a bastard x.x

"James insult me often with things that he learned from you."

Hah! That's such bullshit! (James is my brother, who currently still lives with my dad, although we're rescuing him in a couple weeks to come live with us).

My mom in fact spent so many years trying to defend my dad... she didn't WANT us to grow up hating him. In fact, the reason my brother lives with my dad now is because my mom wanted to give them a chance to bond away from the negative environment of her own issues with him. If my brother has taken issue with my dad now, it's NOT my mom's fault. In fact, it might be more due to the fact that my dad frequently refers to my brother as "working class scum" and "trash" just because he works in a shop. He works up to 10 hours per day, while my dad sits at home and drinks coffee and plays chess >.>

Also, my dad has been taking money from my brother's wallet. As much as £20 at a time, without asking. If anyone's scum...

"What I want is for you to reconsider my position as father of your children, money or no money."

Always his attitude... "I'm their father and therefore they must respect me even if I refuse to do anything to support the family, and even though I've been gone 60% of every since their birth doing what the hell I want, they and you must accept me back as head of the household when I return, just because I'm the father!" is basically the gist of it.

"Your negative to talk to me for more than a couple of minutes is not only grotesque but is unlawfull.I have all the documents that prove you wrong and can call witnesses to testify."

I want to laugh. And scream. And cry. At the same time.

I have no idea WHAT he would take her to court over. The man is insane. Also, he has never EVER in his life admitted that he is wrong about anything. He's never even apologised to my mom for not being present at my birth. He had a business appointment that was more important. EVERYTHING has always been more important to him than his family. He's just pissed now because my mom wants to cut him off from leeching off her finances any more whilst accepting no responsibility.

"I want to settle the differences between you and me in a civilised manner and without having to go to a legal battle where the lawyers will scalp you. If you win you will win a scrawny chicken and will lose a cow. As for me if I lose there is not moneys for the lawyers to get. Legal cost are terrific in this country and once one is involved in a legal fight there is not way to claim victory. One loses a lot as a loser and one loses winning."

Chicken... cow... what?

Words evade me. He called 5 minutes later to ask my mom if she received the email.

I'm going to bed x.x

Comments

[rainsingingwolf.livejournal.com]

I have no words. I just thought you might feel better knowing somebody read this.

[flyboy-fox.livejournal.com]

Thank you :)

[shadowdingo.livejournal.com]

What the...? I'm about as speechless as you are Jai! From what I've heard, your poor family is struggling enough as they are. And... stealing money from your brother's wallet, who, might I add, is actually working his butt off to earn that money? I feel ever so sorry for your brother Jai... and for your family too.

And if you ask me, sounds like your dad is more money-obsessed than your mum!

[flyboy-fox.livejournal.com]

Oh, he's not money-obsessed... just totally broke :\ Since he decided a long time ago that he's too 'high class' to get a regular job. He's a 'business man', you see. He gets all his flights paid for and he's met important people... so he thinks HE's so important. Despite the fact that he doesn't earn any money because these rich famous people are just using him because he has stars in his eyes and thinks the most important thing in life is rubbing shoulders with the rich and famous x.x

[rabbit-hugs.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry you have such an asshole father. But it sounds like your mom totally makes up for his bastardness. Sounds like you're lucky to have her. :)

[flyboy-fox.livejournal.com]

Yeah :) She's a real gem. I'd be totally lost without her.

(Aww, that OVA scene... ^^)

[sphix.livejournal.com]

*coughSUCHBULLSHITcough*

*huggles Jai and his mom* From what I've heard, your dad is a bona-fide psycho... ;____;

[flyboy-fox.livejournal.com]

My mom and brother actually suspect that my dad is a bit insane/delusional @_@ He honestly believes that he's entirely in the right and that my mom is out to get him. When we still lived with him, if he misplaced anything, he'd accuse her of stealing it and hiding it just to make him think he's crazy. One time he accused her of stealing and hiding his reading glasses when he was wearing them around his neck x.x

[sphix.livejournal.com]

...Guh? Wow, I'm glad you got the hell outta there, then... ;___;

[shaboba330.livejournal.com]

Ugh. Your dad really needs to get a life x__x *glomps you and your mom*

[flyboy-fox.livejournal.com]

What he needs to do is get out of ours ;_; ::Hugs::

[tallycola.livejournal.com]

I'm their father and therefore they must respect me even if I refuse to do anything to support the family, and even though I've been gone 60% of every since their birth doing what the hell I want, they and you must accept me back as head of the household when I return, just because I'm the father!

You've summed it up so nicely. And I've seen so many examples of dipshit idiots in the news doing absolutely ridiculous things precisely because of this. Some men think they're entitled to the moon and the stars because of their magical sperm powers, even when they fail utterly as fathers, husbands or providers in every sense of the world that doesn't involve a brief biological function that ANY MALE CAN DO.

Your poor mom. She's probably put up with more than her fair share of this crap in her life. I can't believe he treats your brother like that and actually expects respect from him. What's the deal with ownership of the house in London? Maybe when your brother comes out to live you it'll be easier to avoid your dad? (How old is your brother anyway? If you're both adults there is really nothing your father is legally entitled to. But obviously he's just talking out of his ass that whole last paragraph anyway!)

[flyboy-fox.livejournal.com]

Well, we sold the house in London. My brother and dad are living in rented accomodation which is paid for in advance for 6 months. My mom would like to stop paying the gas/electricity bills as soon as my brother moves here, but my dad will probably kick up a fuss, as he has nowhere to go. Which isn't my mom's problem, but unless she either pays for him to stay somewhere, or pays for him to fly back to Colombia, there's a chance he'll try to take legal action. Which he would almost certainly fail at since there's nothing he can really sue for, but my mom would still have to pay a solicitor to defend her, and my dad has no money to repay her if he loses.

Anyhow, my brother is 19, so you're right, my dad has no legal rights over him anymore anyway. If anything, my mom could sue HIM for the fact that he's never paid any child-support/maintainance for me and my brother during our entire growing-up. But again, he's penniless, it would be a lost cause x.x

I just worry that he'll actually attempt legal action. He may be broke, but because he bases his entire life on rubbing shoulders with the 'upper class', there's a chance he could still find a lawyer willing to take on his case :\

[naoe-riki.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry to say that.. But that man doesn't seem to be clever.

[flyboy-fox.livejournal.com]

Unfortunately he IS clever. He's very smart. He's a maths and chess genius. I worry that if he wants to hurt my mom via a lawsuit, he'll find a way to twist everything in his favor :\ Also, he's an old man. 76 years old, whereas my mom is 20 years younger than him at 56. They might take pity on an 'old feeble man' like him x.x

[naoe-riki.livejournal.com]

He may play chess well and do maths, but that doesn't make him a clever person. If he were one, he would have cared for you, your mother and brother more.

My parents are rather old too.. -_-

[leonskennedy827.livejournal.com]

76, better hope the bucket gets kicked over soon eh? (Sorry if that sounds cruel but he sounds like he really is causing you so much greif)

Still, I have never met the man, but to be frank, I don't really want to

[way-past-cool.livejournal.com]

He is insane. And no court would ever take him seriously. I was wondering though, in England, if someone tries to sue you and you're unable to afford a lawyer, do they appoint one to you?

Anyway, he's scum and I'm sorry about all the stress it's causing your mom and you ;_;

[flyboy-fox.livejournal.com]

You know, I actually don't know o.o I'll have to ask about that n.n; I think everyone's entitled to legal representation... but I don't know exactly how it works in cases where the defending party can't afford legal aid.

[teamrodent.livejournal.com]

McGee: Perhaps a poem for your father:

Chickens eat corn,

Cows consume grass,

Start shit with us,

You'll lose your ass.

[(Anonymous)]

There must be some legal way to get rid of him.
Legal this, legal that... =P
-Collision Cat