Thanks guys ^_^
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flyboy_foxEep, the meme ran out of space, so to those who posted in my LJ, I replied there, and to those who posted on the meme before it got full, I'm going to answer here, because I feel you deserve a response ^^;
You're a buttface...
...but I love you! XD
There's no way you're gonna guess who I am. Seriously.
... :\ stalker!! Who are you?? I... I'm so confuuuuused! ;_; ... (I love you too XD;)
You're really cool, but sometimes I get the feeling that you don't want to talk to me, and that makes me sad.
... this seems to be a negative that keeps cropping up :\ I'm really sorry. It's just me being terribly unreliable and airheaded about maintaining relationships with online friends. I can tell you right off the bat that I don't mean to be cold and I feel awful for seeming that way. I've been extra stressy lately, due to all the business and hecticness of moving - but that's no excuse. Don't give up on me, okay? I'll try to be better about it. Thank you for your comment.
I think these honesty meme things are nothing but an invitation for drama, anger and emo. Can't stand 'em.
Oh, wait, right. You? You're cool. Seriously, I think so.
This meme? Not so much.
::Nods:: I agree, these memes can get way out of hand. I don't usually do them because... well... for that exact reason; it can easily turn into something very nasty. However, it did serve its purpose here, and I went into it knowing there were probably things people needed to get off their chests about me. I feel I went in with a level head, ready and willing to accept the bad as well as the good. And in the end, I'm glad that I did. You can be sure that if there's any emo here, it won't come from me ^_~ Thanks for your input.
All in all, I think a few things can be drawn from this meme.
- Several of my friends feel like sometimes I don't really care about them or that I don't have time for them or even that I don't want to talk to them.
- I get the impression that a few of you kinda feel like I'm unpredictable with my moods and you kinda don't know where you are with me? Like, sometimes I'm friendly and warm and other times I seem a bit cold and distant or even uncaring?
- My friends do seem to like me and seem to enjoy my company when I'm in a cheerful open-seeming mood, and other times they get frustrated because I can on other occasions seem unresponsive and moody.
- One person mentioned that they feel I use 'emo posts' to get attention despite not giving enough attention to friends myself.
Are those fair conclusions? Those things seem to be the recurring trends, but on the positive side, you guys were honest with me and the fact that you wish I would talk to you more does seem to indicate that you like me despite my downfalls :) So I'd like to thank you for being honest.
So, from here, I'll use this to try to strengthen my friendships with you all (assuming you all still want to be my friends). How about some (late) New Year Resolutions:
- I'll use AIM more responsibly instead of just leaving it running in the background and frustrating people who are trying to reach me x.o And if anyone does IM while I'm not here, I'll make more of an effort to contact them again when I return.
- I'll try to be more proactive about contact. Admittedly, I still have a really irrational fear of IMing first, which is why I tend not to, but I understand now how that can make my friends feel like I don't care about contacting them :\ Don't expect miracles from me, because stupidly this is something I'm really afraid of, but I promise I'll try to be better about it. If I haven't IMed you in a while, please tell me. If necessary, tell me you won't IM me again until I IM first. I think sometimes I just don't realize how long its been. I'll get better about this, and if I start to slack, remind me. I've been making excuses for too long.
- I'll try to be less moody. I know I have a tendency to get snippy when I'm tired or in a bad mood, and I can get kinda snarky over very minor things. I know it's not fair on anyone if they don't know if I'll be in a happy cheerful mood or a snarky and distant mood... and while I don't think I actually verbally attack people often and I try not to be aggressive, I think my worst trait is apathy. If I don't wanna talk to people, I should just not go online, instead of going on AIM and then ignoring everyone ^^; So yes, I am sorry to everyone I've done that to.
- I don't think my posts are particularly emo on the whole, but I can see why the occasional emo post might seem like a selfish cry for attention when I've been acting this way. I can't promise to never be emo on LJ, but I can promise to treat my friends better so that they don't feel like I'm abusing their friendship and then expecting them to all come running back to me as soon as I need them. Does that seem fair enough?
If anyone has anything else to say, say so here. Anonymously or in person, either's good. And then, we can move on. Thanks for being honest friends and thank you for telling me what I can change rather than just telling me to eff off :) It means a hell of a lot.
You're a buttface...
...but I love you! XD
There's no way you're gonna guess who I am. Seriously.
... :\ stalker!! Who are you?? I... I'm so confuuuuused! ;_; ... (I love you too XD;)
You're really cool, but sometimes I get the feeling that you don't want to talk to me, and that makes me sad.
... this seems to be a negative that keeps cropping up :\ I'm really sorry. It's just me being terribly unreliable and airheaded about maintaining relationships with online friends. I can tell you right off the bat that I don't mean to be cold and I feel awful for seeming that way. I've been extra stressy lately, due to all the business and hecticness of moving - but that's no excuse. Don't give up on me, okay? I'll try to be better about it. Thank you for your comment.
I think these honesty meme things are nothing but an invitation for drama, anger and emo. Can't stand 'em.
Oh, wait, right. You? You're cool. Seriously, I think so.
This meme? Not so much.
::Nods:: I agree, these memes can get way out of hand. I don't usually do them because... well... for that exact reason; it can easily turn into something very nasty. However, it did serve its purpose here, and I went into it knowing there were probably things people needed to get off their chests about me. I feel I went in with a level head, ready and willing to accept the bad as well as the good. And in the end, I'm glad that I did. You can be sure that if there's any emo here, it won't come from me ^_~ Thanks for your input.
All in all, I think a few things can be drawn from this meme.
- Several of my friends feel like sometimes I don't really care about them or that I don't have time for them or even that I don't want to talk to them.
- I get the impression that a few of you kinda feel like I'm unpredictable with my moods and you kinda don't know where you are with me? Like, sometimes I'm friendly and warm and other times I seem a bit cold and distant or even uncaring?
- My friends do seem to like me and seem to enjoy my company when I'm in a cheerful open-seeming mood, and other times they get frustrated because I can on other occasions seem unresponsive and moody.
- One person mentioned that they feel I use 'emo posts' to get attention despite not giving enough attention to friends myself.
Are those fair conclusions? Those things seem to be the recurring trends, but on the positive side, you guys were honest with me and the fact that you wish I would talk to you more does seem to indicate that you like me despite my downfalls :) So I'd like to thank you for being honest.
So, from here, I'll use this to try to strengthen my friendships with you all (assuming you all still want to be my friends). How about some (late) New Year Resolutions:
- I'll use AIM more responsibly instead of just leaving it running in the background and frustrating people who are trying to reach me x.o And if anyone does IM while I'm not here, I'll make more of an effort to contact them again when I return.
- I'll try to be more proactive about contact. Admittedly, I still have a really irrational fear of IMing first, which is why I tend not to, but I understand now how that can make my friends feel like I don't care about contacting them :\ Don't expect miracles from me, because stupidly this is something I'm really afraid of, but I promise I'll try to be better about it. If I haven't IMed you in a while, please tell me. If necessary, tell me you won't IM me again until I IM first. I think sometimes I just don't realize how long its been. I'll get better about this, and if I start to slack, remind me. I've been making excuses for too long.
- I'll try to be less moody. I know I have a tendency to get snippy when I'm tired or in a bad mood, and I can get kinda snarky over very minor things. I know it's not fair on anyone if they don't know if I'll be in a happy cheerful mood or a snarky and distant mood... and while I don't think I actually verbally attack people often and I try not to be aggressive, I think my worst trait is apathy. If I don't wanna talk to people, I should just not go online, instead of going on AIM and then ignoring everyone ^^; So yes, I am sorry to everyone I've done that to.
- I don't think my posts are particularly emo on the whole, but I can see why the occasional emo post might seem like a selfish cry for attention when I've been acting this way. I can't promise to never be emo on LJ, but I can promise to treat my friends better so that they don't feel like I'm abusing their friendship and then expecting them to all come running back to me as soon as I need them. Does that seem fair enough?
If anyone has anything else to say, say so here. Anonymously or in person, either's good. And then, we can move on. Thanks for being honest friends and thank you for telling me what I can change rather than just telling me to eff off :) It means a hell of a lot.
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Date: 2007-03-07 07:53 pm (UTC)I'm glad to see though you're making the effort to improve for your friends, I know I appreciate it. Will say it was nice chatting with you on AIM last week, hopefully we can meet up again soon once things settle down a bit :)
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Date: 2007-03-07 09:22 pm (UTC)I left MSN running one day, didn't set my Status to anything like Be Right Back or Away. Came home and I had about 10 IM Windows up, all of them with either "Hello?" or "Are you there?" posted multiple times. D'oh! XD